Cutting and self-harm is a form of self-destructive behaviour that is talked about a lot lately. It has become very popular with teenagers and young adults. But not all people who cut themselves have a death wish. They are hurting themselves physically to numb a different kind of pain, emotional pain.
Self-destructive behaviour is not limited to self-harm and cutting. It comes in various forms and with many different symptoms, such as:
- Telling yourself that you will never be good/pretty/skinny enough
- Eating disorders
- Self-pity rather than finding a way out of the situation
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Gambling and overspending
- Refusing help from others
- Physical neglect
- Anti-social behaviour
Self-destructive behaviour stems from low self-esteem and low self-worth, and childhood trauma is typically the culprit. Losing a parent at a young age or having to deal with abuse of some sort could leave you feeling worthless and as if everyone is against you.
Many professionals believe that self-sabotaging behaviours are coping mechanisms, while others suggest that it is a way of maintaining comfort zones due to unworthiness or a lack of confidence. Whatever the reason, if you are housing a self-defeating mindset and pushing away the people you love, you need help.
Unfortunately, making positive changes in our lives is not always as easy as making a decision and seeing the changes. Often, a person needs help from a professional along with dedicated and continuous effort. Even then, it can take time to correct self-destructive behaviours and habits.
How an Integrative Coach Can Help
The first step to working with self-destructive behaviours is to recognise them. The next step is to determine what triggers these feelings and find a way to work through them. An Integrative coach can guide you on your journey to self-discovery and give you the tools needed to overcome these harmful behaviours.
There is no shame in needing help and guidance to overcome self-destruction. Learn how to stop these self-destructive behaviours in their tracks so you can grow and move forward. An Integrative Coach can guide you and teach you how to manage and finally let go of these behaviours. Get in touch with Integrative Coaching to book your free session today!